How to Create a Guest List: Who to Invite and How

Potentially one of the most stressful aspects of wedding planning is figuring out the guest list – a process that inevitably leads to more family drama than a telenovela series finale. But with some strategic decision-making and tough love, you can create a well-curated guest list that keeps the peace and your budget intact.

Start with Your A-List

Before even considering peripheral guests, map out the non-negotiable VIPs – immediate families, bridal parties, closest friends, and their plus-ones. This provides a realistic starting point for gauging venue needs and potential costs. It’s a wise move to over-estimate a bit for this group as some will inevitably surprise with random plus-ones later.

Draw the Line Firmly

For Filipino families especially, the cousin crew can spiral out of control quickly on guest lists. Decide on a reasonable cutoff line like first cousins only – no second cousins, cousins’ kids, etc. The same goes for setting limits with coworkers, friends’ partners, and so on. Get on the same page as your partner and hold your ground when relatives inevitably guilt trip.

B&C Lists are Lifesavers

Maintain two follow-up lists ranked in order of descending priority. The “B List” covers those you’ll invite if you miraculously end up with some extra spaces. Your “C List” contains the low-priority loved ones who’ll only make the cut if a shocking number of dropouts occur. This system beats rudely uninviting anybody!

Don’t Feel Obligated

You’ve heard it before – it’s your wedding, your guests, your call. Don’t fall into the trap of feeling obligated to invite relatives or friends’ kids you hardly know or interact with. The only opinions that matter are yours and your partner’s. Politely stand your ground against any outside pressure.

Aim for Your Overall Vibe

While finalizing your guest list, continually re-evaluate who meshes with the overall vision and vibe you want for your celebration. If cranky Tito John is bound to cause drama, or you foresee your university brigade getting too rowdy, it’s okay to cut them. Surround yourselves with only those who’ll genuinely uplift the joyful atmosphere.

Final Advice

Creating a guest list is always stressful, but a few simple guidelines can make the process smoother. Start by agreeing on your must-invite A-list, then set firm boundaries for everyone else. Use the B and C lists to have a fair system for any extra spaces. Most importantly, don’t cave to external pressures – keep your vision for an incredible celebration at the forefront, surrounding yourself with loved ones who will enhance that experience on your special day.